What does it mean to be “productive”?
As someone who has struggled with life-long depression, and other problems that cause a depletion of spoons, one of the ways that I’ve shamed myself most is with this idea of productivity: feeling low when I believe I haven’t been productive enough. And I hear this a lot from other people too, especially people with disabilities.
The notion of productivity is rooted in capitalist (and, it follows, ableist) ideas about an individual’s value. It is important that we be “productive”, not only when we are at work, but at all times. And what does it mean to be productive? When we are hard on ourselves for not being productive enough, what do we mean? We can try to define what productivity means for ourselves on an individual level, but I don’t believe we can separate it from the aforementioned capitalist and ableist ideas. Especially for those of us struggling with disabilities, I think this is one of the biggest, most common, and frequently unchallenged ways of internalizing ableism and perpetuating it on ourselves and others.
Defining what productivity means might be easier if we look at what it isn’t. Sitting online all day, playing games, watching television, watching movies, sleeping, relaxing, doing anything passive – I’ve seen all of these things frequently branded as “unproductive” when people criticize themselves (or others) for how they use their non-working/unstructured time. Things that don’t have a clearly defined goal. Do you have a huge to-do list that doesn’t include taking time out of the day and being kind to yourself? Do you typically not cross off most of the things on that list, and then feel upset over it, like you’ve wasted your day?
Productivity, for you, might mean engaging in active hobbies or running errands. It might mean working non-stop at multiple jobs, constant research, having several projects on the go, organizing and initiating rallies, or conducting one workshop after another. Being “productive” never includes self care. I see many creative people who are hard on themselves for not producing enough, especially if their reason for not doing so involves mental health struggles. As if we are mini assembly lines. Subconsciously comparing ourselves to mass production factories, which we will never be able to imitate because of the limitations of being a single person.
Capitalism has seeped into our lives so deeply that we don’t even realize what we’re doing when we talk about wanting to be more productive or shame ourselves for not being productive enough. We forget to take time to relax and take care of ourselves because we are so concerned with meeting quotas in our heads for productivity. Do your self-care rituals stand in opposition to your ideas of what productivity looks like? Why isn’t it productive to take care of ourselves?
Let’s stop pushing ourselves beyond our limits. Let’s fight back against this notion of productivity, against the idea that our value lies in what we “get done” every day. Let’s start working on loving ourselves as we are and giving ourselves some breathing room.
All of this.
Work to live, don’t live to work.
this is so, so pertinent to me.
This is so relevant to my life. I try really hard to allow myself to have time to do things that are not “productive”, but it’s hard. I have so many things I need to do that I always feel bad when I take time away from that to do stuff that’s just for me.
OH PLEASE LET’S DO THIS ERRBODY.
We don’t have to all come out at take over the movement, but can we please please please team up to kick his ass out?
YES. I SECOND THIS.
Dan Savage=Major Douche.
Just in case you didn’t realize how big of an asshole Dan Savage really is.
and if I’m the enemy, you’re in real trouble
How fucking full of himself can he get?
Presented without further comment. Because honestly, what could I possibly say?
Dan Savage doing what he does best.
I took the documents down to the court today to be filed. Thankfully because of my low income I was able to get a fee waiver (it’s about $350 to change your name in California, plus $25 each for any copies you need afterwards, and all those costs are waived with this fee waiver), so I didn’t have to pay anything there. Did have to pay $60 to run a four-week ad in a local paper announcing the name change, and I’ll have to pay something for the DMV eventually (I think it’s like $25 for a new license), but at least the really expensive part is not an issue.
The earliest court date they had available was Thursday August 11th, which is about six weeks away (it would have to be over four weeks away anyway, since it has to be after the ad runs). I do work on Thursdays, but not until 1.45pm and the hearing is at 8.30am, so I don’t even have to ask to change my schedule or anything.
I do wish I’d done this before I got this new job, because now in addition to the DMV, social security, bank, credit cards, and whatever else I’m forgetting at the moment, I have to contact the HR department at work and have them change my records there. Once everything is official, I’m going to call HR and see if I can just scan and email a copy of my new driver’s license or something (the HR department is not at my location, so I can’t just go there in person).
Anyway, it’s all such a huge hassle and expense (even with the fee waiver), which is the main reason I’ve been dragging my feet for so long, but it will be good to have it all done, especially having an ID I can show to people without feeling weird (not only does my license have my old name on it (obviously), but the picture is over ten years old).
I’m not sure if I’m going to change my gender marker with the DMV or not, since I can’t change it with the state or with social security without surgery, and I’ve heard that if you have F on one and M on the other it can cause problems. However, I can get it changed with the DMV if I want to, just have to have my doctor at the LAGLC fill out a form saying my gender and demeanour are male (doesn’t say anything about surgery).
1. I seem to be a spammer-magnet lately. I get all excited about new followers and it turns out they are only spammers. ;_;
2. I saw my grandpa today. He came by to give me a birthday card & money. It was weird, because if I didn’t know from my mom that my grandparents had got the coming-out letter I sent them, I would never have known. Totally acting like nothing changed. I had not heard anything from them or seen them at all since I sent the letter, so I really didn’t know what to expect, didn’t know if they even would be acknowledging my birthday or what. So the card was addressed to my old name, and that’s what my grandpa called me, which grates, but at least now I know they haven’t cut me off financially.
Yup, passports are expensive and need to be renewed after a certain time in the US, too (though I think it’s longer than five years…yeah, just checked and it’s ten years, though only five if you’re a child). Rates recently went up and it’s now $135 for a new adult passport and $110 to renew. You can also get a special passport card good for only Canada and Mexico (which until recently you did not need a passport to visit at all), which costs “only” $55 for new and $30 to renew.
Since passports are not used in the US as a primary form of ID, the only reason to get one is if you are going to be travelling internationally. And since they’re expensive, there’s no reason to get one unless you are actually planning a trip. And since the US is not small and surrounded by other countries like, say, most of Europe, it’s a huge expense to travel somewhere internationally, thus is makes no sense for people to just have a passport. It’s a specific thing to get if you have the money and time to make use of it.
[TRIGGER WARNING for the t-slur]
I just don’t feel that it’s all that sexy. It’s weird. And uncomfortable. I look at photos of myself, and I look like such a tranny! It’s amazing!
I look like Grace Jones, androgynous, robo, future fashion queen. It’s not what is sexy. It’s graphic and it’s art.
I don’t really think anybody’s d*** is hard, looking at that. I think they’re just confused and maybe a little scared.” —
lady gaga i hate you so fucking much (via geromy)
Oh my god this is so incredibly fucked up
Please for the love of god tell me this is fake and that she’s not actually stupid enough to think that this is an okay thing to say
Yep, she actually said that. Source.
So. Much. Fucking. Hate.
This is the self-appointed savior of the queers? I still like some of her early songs, and I’m not going to stop listening to them (though I have made a decision not to listen to any of her newer music, including her new album), but I just cannot stand her as a person. Really, really cannot.
Another cast member who did not look her stunning best was fellow Cheerio member Heather Morris. She created waves after her character Brittany Pierce aped her namesake Britney Spears as she donned a snake on an episode of the show, and is also famed for her bikini photo shoots. But she looked surprising dowdy after appearing with her hair raked back and without make-up. Ironically the 24-year-old Californian is a Celebrity Style Ambassador for FLIRT! Cosmetics, an Estee Lauder cosmetics line.” —
All from this article in the Daily Mail about Glee last night, am I the only one who finds this really rude and derogatory towards them?!
Especially as it’s written by a guy.
Remember, ladies: you have to look sexy to some unspecified heterosexual male standards all the time. None of this “dressing for the weather,” no “being warm” bullshit. Dead of winter? Bikini. Don’t feel like makeup? Too bad, didn’t anyone tell you you don’t have the right to decide what goes onto your face?
Also wtf is “a lot of the dads were disappointed”? Like, who cares about the actual fans of the show, but some middle-aged men missed an opportunity to perv out on a younger woman. OUTRAGE.
LOL THIS IS SO DUMB REALLY. She’s not talking literally. She just wants a man who is TOUGH. -_________________________________________________- It’s just a bit of crude humor in a silly pop song.
It’s not though really. She explicitly describes a man with a “vag” as not being a real man. Whether it’s metaphorical or not, it indicates that no real man would have a “vag”
I hate how people I know IRL don’t get that part. Whenever I think something trans-related is offensive they’re all “omg it’s nbd y u mad.”
Like, this song is so horrible and anti-trans and not okay… whether she meant it to be anti -trans or not… it’s still really hurtful/offensive.
God, I just read the lyrics. That is fucking horrible, jesus fucking christ.
(IMO anyone who uses the word “mangina” full stop about someone else needs a punch in the face.)
This should be “you know you’re a decent human being when”
Seriously. Even if you don’t get the trans stuff, it’s a fucking misogynistic song, people. I’m sure she didn’t mean it to be anti-trans, because I seriously doubt trans guys are even on her radar, but there’s no getting around the misogyny.
(And. I didn’t lose respect for her, because idk why I would have any respect for some popstar in the first place. What on earth is she supposed to have done to earn my respect?)
So, femmeftm reblogs a picture of someone who explicitly says they are neither male nor female in the accompanying photo description, and a cursory glance at the person’s tumblr makes it clear that they were not assigned female at birth, meaning there is no way they belong on a site called anything ftm (or at least not when the photo is reblogged without commentary that makes it clear they are not ftm). I sent a message to femmeftm telling them so. I was not rude. I did not attack them. I did not assume they had done so out of malice, but rather out of carelessness and the assumption that all trans people who look like the OP are FAAB.
So of course I get this in response, saying I’m rude and attacking them for simply pointing out their mistake and telling them they should be more careful when they reblog. Ugh, and there is already one person giving femmeftm backpats for “standing up for themselves” against my meanie mean attack.
Seriously. If I thought you were doing it out of malice, I would not bother trying to correct you! Why is that so hard for some people to grasp?
So. I was following femmeftm, but not anymore.
Thanks for changing it and for letting me know! :)